Receiving is the key to unlock the abundant life you may be inadvertently denying yourself. Reciting your affirmations and reframing your thoughts is great and all, but it will only get you so far. If you’re not open to receiving you are most definitely blocking all the goodness trying to make its way to you! And there is so much goodness that wants to make a life with you!
Learning how to receive when you have been the giver for your whole life is no cakewalk, but the shift must be made! We were not meant to keep pouring out from an empty cup.
Did you know that receiving is one of the superpowers of the feminine? It sounds straight forward, but it's not. Why? Because it requires letting go enough to OPEN. And we hold on so tight!!!
Simple fact, you can't be holding on while letting go at the same time. It just doesn't work. You are blocking your abundance!
I’ll never forget, It was October 17, 2018 when I realized I was the one blocking my own abundance. It was at a retreat in Mexico. It was the first day and I was walking down the path toward my little jungle hut, and I saw this gorgeous woman stretched out by the pool, soaking in the sun. It wasn't her physical beauty that struck me, it was her open energy. It was like she was receiving all the bounty from the world all around her. I felt like I was witnessing the goddess herself! I had never seen anyone looking so blissful, so feminine.
Turned out, this was the very same woman I would be meeting later that day to discuss my intentions for the retreat. Well, I didn’t have an intention because this was a last-minute decision to join the retreat and honestly, I felt like my life was going just fine! I had no idea what I was missing out on, but I was about to find out!
I started telling her about my life and as I was talking, I could hear my words reflected back to me and the experience was like fingernails on a chalkboard. I was witnessing the drastic difference between us and it felt very uncomfortable.
Then she says to me, “what you are describing, sounds very masculine”.
And there it was. I hadn't thought of it in those terms, but it was true! I was so caught up in my work and the perfection of it, that I wasn’t even enjoying it.
After that conversation, I was clear on my intention. I had a deep desire to access my feminine. And for the next 7 days, I received clarity around what it looked and felt like to open to my feminine. And it was absolutely beautiful! But after leaving the retreat, I felt everything shut back down. I didn't know how to get to that open place of receiving in my regular life!
How could I possibly let go and allow without everything falling apart! I mean seriously, I had a business to run, I couldn't just lay out by the pool all day. There was definitely something I was missing.
It took time for me to sort through what I had experienced and figure out how I could open to receive and also keep my life together. I experimented with different techniques for opening to the feminine, but I only ended up at the opposite end of the spectrum.
Eventually, I realized it's not necessary to swing from one extreme to the other. There is a middle ground sweet spot!
Turns out, we actually need a healthy balance between our inner masculine and our inner feminine to live an abundant life. The masculine offers the framework for the feminine to let go and flow. Our inner masculine keeps us safe and supports us to open to receive.
Nurturing the balance between my masculine and my feminine every day, has allowed me to open to receive in ways I didn't realize I was shutting down. For instance, in the bedroom... Turns out, you have to be open to receive if you want to experience epic orgasms!! Just sayin...🌹🌹🌹
Life IS abundant, but you have to be open to receive it. And in order to receive it, you need the support of your own inner masculine.
And the more you lean into that inner support, the more you will feel supported by the world around you. It’s amazing!
It’s a major upgrade to the ancient Martyr story I carried for years about being unsupported and alone.
Who knew I had the key inside me the whole time!
So, I keep nurturing the balance of my masculine and my feminine every single day and as I do, I am experiencing a very different world than the one I used to know. I am being supported by a loving universe and it’s safe for me to receive. And of course the same goes for you, my love, if you are open to receive it! 😉